Thursday, December 23, 2010

Family Dynamics

The crazy thing about Families is there no such thing as normal when talking about them. But maybe 'normal' is what many refer to there family as 'crazy.' My famliy is for the most part very close. Including extended aunts and uncles on my mom's side. My dad's side has much less conversation, and in certain relations, no conversation. I know my family isn't normal, by far. But we love to talk, and by talk I am refering to the fact that my sisters and I talk daily. In fact numerous times during the day. If we don't email eachother all through out the morning we will talk on the phone later. We do still talk in the afternoon after emailing all morning, this talking daily includes the weekend, unless there are plans that make the weekends more of a game of phone tag.
It is good to have this communtication. I feel that I am very close to my sisters. I have been told by others that they have a jealousy for my relationship. People who don't talk even once a month to a family member. Or people who keep up with sisters/brothers in a yearly Christmas letter. People who have gone years without talking to a family member, but don't think much of it. Not to say they were fighting, but it just isn't how their relationship works.
I need to remind myself that not everyone is considerate of keeping family members up to date with new happenings. That not everyone feels the need to send a message that says everything is ok. In fact when I forget that, I find myself upset. I want to know now that someone is okay. Not after the fact. I am a bit impatient when it comes to waiting up late just to get that message that says all is well.
But when all is said and done, I do find out. One way or another, I will find out. My family will let me know. Others may not, but mine will.


  1. i tried to comment twice on this and I see it still did not post!

    anyhow, its best just to let that stuff go and give V or I a call to vent :)

  2. The closeness is genetic, I believe. One time, Ginger called me from California (This was in the time of "LONG DISTANCE") to ask me if she should cut her bangs!

  3. Sometimes folks we are close with can let us down a bit. But, we have to forgive them, because we will need thier forgiveness, at some point. (I know this to be true...)

  4. I can't help but feel this is directed towards me...if it is, you don't have to tell me but I am sorry. I love you still and do want you to know everything is OK even if I am on drugs :)